A message to a friend struggling with a major life change:
Sometimes, when we embrace who we really are – whatever that means – it sets us off on a completely different path than we or anyone we know ever imagined we would embark on.
And because new things are scary, even when we think we’re putting our feet forward, in reality our hands are firmly gripped to the walls of our past, and we content ourselves with hanging perilously to the Cliffs of the Known rather than venturing into new territory.
Even when it’s painful. Even when it’s exhausting. Even when it’s robbing us of the sustenance we need to survive.
Because clinging to the known feels safer than letting go and facing the vast, scary unknown.
What if we fall?
But what if we don’t?
Sometimes, the only way we will let go of the past and see what’s truly meant for our future is if someone stomps on our battered, bloodies hands as they struggle to grasp the rocks crumbling under our fingertips and forces us to let go.
And in that split second, when letting go of the shards of rock seems like madness but we have no choice, and we’re angry that someone has abandoned us and betrayed us, and we see our fingers release and feel the split second of weightlessness before the anticipated plummet, we surprise ourselves by the realization that we’re not falling at all.
In fact, we’re floating.
And while it’s hard to get used to our wings, because we’ve never unfurled them before, and it’s scary to look down, because we don’t knows what perils await us, very soon we realize we’re not just floating, but soaring.
And then we’re seeing the world from new heights and new perspectives. And the landscape we imagined as dangerous is actually lush and green and filled with fresh waterfalls and crystal seas and beautiful things we never saw when our faces were smashed against our past.
Never forget that you have been created for wonderful things, and you are an important link in a chain of small interactions and experiences that make the world go round.
Following your heart and embracing all you are means that everyone benefits.
Depriving yourself of all you are means we all suffer with you.
Sometimes the only way to let go is to have someone rip your fingers from the ledge of who you were and shove you into the sky of who you are meant to be.
Letting go hurts in the moment, and sometimes we leave a limb behind because our grasp is so tight.
But when it’s time to let go, let go.
We all need you to keep moving forward.
We all need you.